The basic premise of my work and my personal strength is building a trusting relationship with my clients. My work aims to achieve the parent’s own goals through genuine interpersonal relationships, caring and consistent work.
The aim of guiding a goal-oriented coaching process is to ensure that you, as a parent, first succeed in creating lasting external changes through internal changes, both in thinking and in action.
Examples of internal change experiences that coaching aims to address include:
– Increased self-management, experience of empowerment and hopefulness.
– Accepting that you can’t change everything, you have to prioritise. The realisation that you can learn to accept feelings in yourself that previously seemed unbearable or shameful.
– Increased flexibility of perception, thinking and emotional life = psychological flexibility.
– Tolerating mistakes and accepting that you are not perfect and cannot control everything.
External changes include new ways of doing things, new social skills, the courage to change your own parenting and everyday life to make it your own and, for example, giving up addictions.
“The basic premise of goal-oriented coaching is trust between me and the parent.”
– Tuulia of Windsurfing Training
In an atmosphere of trust, the parent is free to express his or her experiences as they are and to make observations about the way he or she sees himself or herself and other family members.
The goal-oriented approach of the Wind Ride – coaching uses a brief therapeutic approach. The duration of the individual coaching sessions is usually a minimum of 3 months, but the coaching can be extended depending on the demands of the family’s situation.
The minimum duration of coaching is based on the time required for internal and external change to occur. The experience of change is individual and influenced by the parent’s own capacity for self-management and motivation to work, and therefore cannot be guaranteed to occur within 3 months.
I believe that a goal-oriented, coaching and interactive approach is the key to a successful process. Through a coaching and interactive approach, I help the parent to figure things out on his/her own, rather than serving the parent with all the information ready chewed. Self-insight is more effective and motivates longer-term changes in behaviour.
